By now you’ve heard of the 5 Love Languages.
You might be able to list them nice and neat or better yet, live them total and complete!
You see, all of us have some hardwiring which makes the list line up more perfectly in our person and it’s very telling to figure out what speaks love to you, and which ways you give love in return.
Words of Affirmation- actually speaking life into another.
Acts of Service- thought, time and effort put into service.
Physical Touch- security through this human connection.
Quality Time- time given without distraction, just action.
Receiving Gifts- the “stuff" that objectively shows you care.
Just yesterday my children and I tackled one tough workout as a team. I was shocked when everyone decided they wanted to join me. After I clicked a few more helmets onto kids, we were off and running away from the house to hit the dirt road through the surrounding hills.
Well, one good attitude lead to another before I knew it, we’d committed ourselves to an 8 mile hilly dirt loop. No worries! Just me with a 2mo. old and 3 year old in the jogging stroller and a 6, 8, and 12 year old on mountain bikes. What could possibly go wrong…or right?
The connection we felt as we completed this feat together was awesome, and just in case you think this is our normal and that my kids are highly conditioned for efforts like this all the time, they’re not! It was a big deal to get us all our running and rolling for that duration, but worth it.
I pumped up their efforts with heartfelt Words of Affirmation: "you can do it, you’re such a power peddler, you really cruise, Jesus would be proud of your attitude!”
They Received the Gift of helping to craft the adventure according to pace, route and purpose. We went substantially further than planned and they took ownership in that effort too.
The Physical Touch at our minimal pit stops came in the form of a quick high 5 or hug, a chance to sit on my lap upon a roadside stump a quick cuddle during one breastfeeding.
Pushing the stroller while running steep hills and joyfully aiding my 6 year old daughter with lots of pushes and sustained assistance certainly exhibited Acts of Service to her.
All the kids achieved something significant and celebrated this incredible dip into Quality Time with each other. It felt like “family-ing” at its best!
(Always thinking ahead of a possible meltdown or coup, I did secretly text their Papa at one point and tell him to bike around the mountains to surprise them from the other direction with oranges and salami, but he didn’t and yet we survived and didn’t fade. Phew!!)
I, therefore, cannot tell you how important a tool physical exercise should be in your life!
Life is spoken into you and out from you by these efforts. Don’t box up your need for physical efforts together so small that you always toss it off the table of things you’ll do today.
Make it big, keep it prominent and go out and live the life you imagined, one lived in LOVE!
Every efforts is more than no effort at all.
To God be heaps of glory and praise eternal,
P.S. Chat with me to get you moving again physically, spiritually or nutritionally. It’s time MOMMA!
When you have the blinders on you don’t know where you’re going.
I feel this in the case of a woman I recently spoke to. She was raised as a Sedevacantist. For those learning a new word up me writing this, Sedevacantism is the position, held by some traditionalist Catholics, that the present occupier of the Holy See is not truly pope due to the mainstream church's espousal of what they see as the heresy of modernism and that, for lack of a valid pope, the See has been vacant since the death of Pope Pius XII in 1958.
Without diving into the whole pool of mess regarding the above statement, let us examine one powerful lie she was expected to live, “I was expected to live in a perpetual state of suffering. The more miserable I was the better off I was spiritually.”
Whoa! Can you stand the thought of it?
We all know the merit of self-denial for being chosen and freely enacted by an individual. It’s the going without, the avoidance of something for holiness’ sake.
Take this one step further and it wades into self-mortification, which is also meritorious, but a more extreme wherein, one willingly and knowingly chastises their own flesh to different degrees to subdue it. This external good is only as such, if it conforms with a simultaneous internal mortification.
It is certainly true that "those who belong to Christ have crucified nature, with all its passions, all its impulses.”
We ought to all be working on it and according to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, “[t]he way of perfection passes by way of the Cross. There is no holiness without renunciation and spiritual battle. Spiritual progress entails the ascesis and mortification…”
Well, when you have a woman fully accepting that her misery is normalcy, that breeds contempt of the flesh, of her vocation and of life itself.
Can she not desire a healthy body?
Is she wrong to work on becoming fit in the flesh?
Is she sinning to create strength and stamina through intentional exercise?
This is a rough sketch of the lie she was expected to live.
We then worked out together and it blew her away to uncover a true Catholic perspective with my help, one which honors the body, achieves the purposes for which it’s made, offers its actions for others, and dare I say, glorifies God by care of the flesh.
We happily felt our muscles searing with a burn during high intensity intervals for legs and offered it up for the Holy Souls in Purgatory among other intentions.
…and in that her mind went…POOF!
“I never thought to offer the pain of a workout as a prayer,” she stated.
Well, ladies, let’s feel the burn here, and offer it here, before its the eternal burn of Hell.
I see it as doing the next right thing and the next hard thing as an offering, truly a subduing of the flesh and as a building block for accepting what holiness demands. How do you see it?
If you have a perspective needing massively shifted, call me. I chat for free with any woman who books a call and I help her personally FIND HER FORWARD. Is that you?
Glorify the Lord with me,
“Better is a poor man who is sound, and strong of constitution, than a rich man who is weak and afflicted with evils. Health of the soul in holiness of justice, is better than all gold and silver: and a sound body, then immense revenues. There is no riches above the riches of the health of the body: and there is no pleasure above the joy of the heart.” Sirach 30:14-16
Can you spot the man who photo bombed me? Look for him!
Maybe it’s your current weight, your appetite for aggression, your unbreakable addiction to “that” food or the need to have people praise you, and it’s not as it should be.
Will you win the war or raise your pitiable white flag of surrender and just settle?
That doesn’t work!
It doesn’t work for you, and therefore, it doesn’t work for Him. Seriously!
You may think you cannot change…
You may have tried and failed…
You may be scared to try at all…
Fine. That’s fine. It is real, so very real, and tempting.
Come with me and understand what Our Lord thinks when we just settle and play along with lukewarmness because, after all, it's hard to do the right thing if it's not fixed by a pill.
Sacred Scripture offers these convicting words:
“So because thou art lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spew thee out of my mouth.”
Revelation speaks to people such as those who just settle and throw in their proverbial towel on progress.
You see! Progress takes us from what we are to what we can be.
Who doesn’t need that? I do! Sign me up! Show me the dotted line!
We all must keep progressing spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally. It’s the way of the Saints.
So, it’s time to get it right. We need to be “cutting edge” for our ver selves lest we settle and watch our body from behind bars with a stagnant spirit and mastitis of the mind.
Find your forward,
P.S. I help women around the world everyday just like you to break free of the sensation of being totally stalled out and settling. If you are stuck, stuck, stuck, and you know who you are, then what’s stopping you from getting help? I want to meet you on one powerful phone call soon to help you find your forward once and for all. You are one phone call away from all new MOMentum! www.fitcatholicmom.com/talk
It’s time to get you going forward in faith and fitness!
It's my game face. What's yours?
Well, tell us what it is! What does every Catholic mom want?
I’ll tell you, but first let me tell you of a few mothers who remember their own mothers on an only-lettuce-for-lunch diet, dealing with the drag down effects of ongoing depression, or giving in to the all too common personal fatigue from large family life.
Each of these moms recounts the story of her own mother, mentor and friend and sees that it didn’t have to be that way. Her mother didn’t have to be the victim of self made circumstances and she aims to change and do better than her mother did.
Yeah, it’s formative to see how our mothers have managed to care for themselves body and soul, or not. It does lend itself to our framework to which we cling or which desperately want to separate from.
I remember my own mother struggling as she raised three kids as a single parent while she finished college and worked full-time. She was super stressed, out of shape and resentful.
She didn’t have a minute to herself until she finally made a minute!
At 30 years old, as the first college graduate in her family, while raising three kids as a single parent, my mom took her health back.
Was it selfish for her to begin riding a mountain bike in her few spare moments? NO. Was it wasteful of her time and resources as we started traveling to races so she could compete? NO.
This ended up saving her in a lot of ways. She had an outlet to deal with stress, a reason to rise above her life’s serious relationship rut and encounter herself and others at a new level.
She has truly never been the same and I haven’t either as a result of her choices! Her new enthusiasm and pursuit of better health and happiness made an indelible mark on my person. From this she also learned the importance of holiness.
I can clearly remember this new devotion to health bringing her whole being into better focus. I craved the discipline and direction she had and imitated her, eventually becoming an Olympian and World Champion.
What then do we learn from these mothers who are making changes?
A whole lot! They win and so do their families!
These are women who have just as much life happening as you, but they decided that as Catholic mothers they still deserved to have:
How are they achieving these results? They are taking part daily in formation and accountability in the W.I.S.E. Gals (women improving sport and spiritual endurance) 8-week Intensity Course by Fit Catholic Mom.
Here’s what one of them has to say:
Erin in CO writes in her daily training log which keeps her accountable to me:
“I also wanted to share how great it is to have my children see me making my fitness a priority and see me including prayer while I do it! I have had each of them join me, at their desire, in different workouts and have been humbled at the opportunity to set this example for them... thank you for what do!”
If you're stumped on how you will move yourself forward to feeling whole and healthy then reach out to me for a free coaching chat so we can get to the real problem and find you a real solution,
one acceptable to a Catholic mom.
Cheers, not fears!
Someone loves her training to be a good mommy!
Yes, it is true that many of us reading this still need what looks and feels like 5 wardrobes.
It’s extreme…I know.
You might even read this headline and think, what a shame! How materialistic! Who does this?
Well, just ask any mother if her body has been fit, flabby, newly pregnant, very pregnant or postpartum and then you’ll see the need, even a very simple 5 is 5, no less.
Oh, and did I forget that most of us live where we need several different seasons of clothes depending on the climate? Yeah, that too.
What does this have to do with you and me Catholic mother? Everything.
We think about our flesh too much.
We attach a lot of our worth to what we look like too often.
We build an identity upon our physique too readily.
We thing we’re right and justified, when we’re all too wrong.
Our thigh size isn’t our measure of worth.
Our cup size says nothing of our impact.
Our thrift store clothing doesn’t tell our life’s accomplishments.
Thank goodness this all goes deeper than the skin just like the truth.
However, working with women for over 10 years has taught me that the flesh matters.
It is important, really important, but most often we haven’t correctly sorted the facts from the lies.
You can be doing the same exercises from one woman to the next and one will be building virtue while the other is feeding vanity.
It’s my express interest to retrain moms on how to properly view their flesh and to leverage it for their sanctity! You may want a flat stomach. Fine. Who doesn’t?
There are way too many ways to get there incorrectly! You might live in great deprivation through dieting, exercise excessively, get scrupulous with food to the point it become your God, take a drug(s) or even eat “normal” but eliminate that effect with bulimia.
Plain to see how WRONG all these modes are to bring down your weight and get that firm flat frontside.
On the other hand, if you were to eat what foods work with your system, know when to eat what so you can enjoy control and eat to heal at every meal, exercise at a proper and enjoyable amount and rise to your higher nature as a disciplined person, then you’ll strike gold…and maybe even a broiler plate for a belly.
The honest answer is that sport can and should be used as a school of moral excellence, and if that’s not on the top of your mind while working on your body, you may be twisting it out of true context and negating real development of your person.
Let your food, your faith and your fitness fuel you to life eternal and let me be your guide. Book a free call with me today to figure out your fuel! What makes you tick and what makes you sick?
My help is from the Lord, who made heaven and earth. Psalm 121:2
HAPPY FEAST OF SAINT JOSEPH!
St. Edith Stein said, “emotions occupy the center of a woman’s soul.”
"Women are set apart and endowed with unique graces that," as Venerable Fulton Sheen once said, "determine the level of our society."
We must not neglect ourselves when we nurture others!
Often, too often, in fact, we knowingly neglect ourselves. We pour out, pour out, pour out…until we’re out.
This service, which women are particularly great at, is met with some resistance however.
In my many years of coaching mommas it’s clear to see that they get trapped on the wheel of service, but it is not with joy.
The sparks of resentment, exhaustion, and depletion constantly threaten to flare into an uncontrolled fire within them.
They speak of the outlets they let others enjoy, the cost absorbed so others may be active and engaged, but they themselves are battening on spoil.
One of the greatest servants, St. Mother Theresa, stated that the busier she and her sisters are in their care for the poor, the more they pray.
When more people need them, how dare they take more time for themselves! Was that your thought?
Rolling along here with me, I can hear you thinking that it is laying down our lives for others that is heroic. YES! In hating one’s life you’ll find it, while loving one’s life causes the loss of it. YES.
I am not here to twist Scripture. Even Jesus would go and take time up, out and away before entering more deeply into his preaching, ministry and ultimately death.
Mom’s need a slot, a piece of the pie. They likely need it worse than anyone else preciously because they are literally the servants of all.
If they DO NOT STOP off to drink deeply at the fonts of prayer, bodily movement and of optimized nutrition then they miss the mark…and they know it.
I was just speaking with a mother of 8 who regularly attended a gym to take in a series of classes and as the one class ended the male trainer yelled across the the gym asking her in a hyped voice, “who’d you do this for?”
She responded, “I did it for my 8 kids!” He roared back, “No, you did it for you!”
To understand how right she was…and how wrong he was.
The world will not sift this the same way, but you know that taking care of yourself ultimately makes you better available to take care of others.
Your center then, your emotions in the soul, will clearly and brilliantly speak truth.
Give yourself time for formation so you can gift yourself to others…fully and vulnerably.
P.S. I form women in how to find this balance of efforts. There is a balance and you MUST find it to thrive. Hop on a call with me at www.fitcatholicmom.com/talk to see what needs done to help tweak your lifestyle into greatness that glorifies Him.
Spots are limited due to caring for myself and my crew so grab yours NOW!
I didn’t sign up to live lopsided and neither did YOU.
I also didn’t sign up to exist on fumes wishing things were different…though I embrace learning to "die to self" in every form.
Any of us can really get into a rut and run the risk of operating lopsided whether for a few days, weeks or even years as I encounter in lots of moms.
Eventually we either pause long enough to criticize and correct ourselves back onto course or become resentful, impatient and full of self made blockages.
This isn’t what’s really in it for you or me! We were made for more.
You've bought a lie if you can't plainly see that this isn't right or good.
We pour ourselves out every single day, but also must get the fuel we need!
In fact, I like to think of lots of different little fonts to stop off at and get refueled for the greatness God certainly intends.
I, too, am just rising out of a rut of my own making these last few weeks!
I am a busy mom, wife, athlete, entrepreneur, farmer, homeschooler and parish volunteer just to categorize a few of my time expenses.
Well, it has been a rough up-start as I introduced my 17 year old to the world of taking all his classes through an online charter school in condensed fashion with 18 week semesters boiled into 6 week courses! Yikes.
I had no idea I’d spend this part of my year, albeit a small portion, returning to a rhythm of being in high school for several hours a day.
This is the effort it has taken and while it is an amazing opportunity for him, I had no idea it would rob me of a very significant portion of my time.
My prayer life got crowded and overly condensed.
My workouts started to slip.
My rest was quite compromised.
My overall ability to keep to my homeostasis or better yet, continue to live in a “holy tension” as I call it, was off-kilter!
Self made cycles of living lopsided!
We all have time for what we make time for and I just carved myself back into the picture and how much happier, healthier and holier I feel for it. Thank you most Sacred Heart of Jesus.
This isn’t just for me. It’s for YOU too.
I’d love to come alongside you for a time of formation and keep you accountable to the woman you want be, living the life you imagined…with energy and infectious JOY.
Now is the time!
Glorify the Lord by your very busy life and go ahead and give a call to me for a free chat. What would you loose by spending around an hour on the phone with me to see where you’re at and chart the path to where you need to go?
Inspired by Him,
You’re making the world wait...
You’re making the world wait for your greater gift of self while you say things like, “once the kids are raised, when I finally get the time or if I had more money…”
With this tactic you end up stalling out on dreams and purposes which far exceed just putting another so-so meal on the table today or punching the clock at the job you disdain all week long.
Did you ever think it was novel to be a life long learner at some point? Did you think you’d keep developing in character, stamina and grace?
Did you ever hear yourself say that you would always learn to love to learn?
Well? What are you doing to learn more about yourself and the unique gift of just who you are?
When will all the things line up for you to finally push that gas pedal on your mission, ministry or master piece?
I’m here to tell you that it won’t line up!
No. It’s a hard and dangerous uphill route to where you’re going and you’re not prepared.
If you’re not feeding the daily muscles you need to finish this race and keep this faith then you’ll not have a part in what’s to come and…
If you’re getting to the end of each day with a longer list of what you didn’t do than what you really did do then you’re stalled out and waiting because you’re keeping that gift of yourself safely wrapped up and stashed out of sight.
You’re in bare minimum mode and that’s just surviving, not thriving.
"Everyday I understand better what a Grace it is to be Catholics. Poor unlucky those who don’t have Faith: to live without a Faith, without a patrimony to defend, without a steady struggle for the Truth, is not living but existing. We must never exist (vivacchiare) but live." (Pier Giorgio Frassati, Letters to his Friends and Family, pg. 214).
Believe me when I say, I don’t find it convenient to be quite pregnant again, homeschool all my kids, keep up with our new farm and hold the balance of our family finances together through self-directed entrepreneurial efforts here at Fit Catholic Mom.
It’s totally inconvenient. It’s hard. It’s almost pure uphill.
But, it’s necessary. We’ve got our sanity and our sanctity on the line!
I do know what it takes out of me and YOU, and to that end, I know what must be put into me and YOU to accomplish this.
I must be hitting my daily pillars of faith, fitness and food. I also must do this in a very sustainable and Catholic fashion so that it sticks and imbibes me with the truth behind what I’m doing and who I am.
I can’t do it sick, run down or in the cloud and funk of anxiety or depression.
I have to do and be the best wife, mother and coach I can be by getting my fill at certain fonts and then spilling that over for others.
There is no more significant work I could put my hand to the plow on.
I would love to help you feel this mission beneath your feet and beating from the heart in your chest too.
Give me a shout on a free call and I’ll help you see clearly where you’re at, where you must get to and how to achieve it while keeping the perfect balance and perspective as a Catholic mom.
Uncover that gift and spend it!
THIS, you’ll never regret,
This morning’s freezing rain is hardening the earth around me like a crust.
It is converting the softness of yesterday’s snow, fresh and bright.
It wrecks the day!
This is a logical perspective making moms flip flop in their motivation.
Even in the hearts and minds a predictable crust can set back in when life’s weather changes for the worse.
You had a glimmer of freshness and hope as 2019 opened, the blanketing of newness and the ‘promise’ was felt again so you played, planned and dashed carelessly out the door to enjoy your life. But only for a time?
Before long the dripping sogginess and subsequent freeze results in a hardening all around you. Your routines and good practices fade and so goes your zest for right living.
By now you realize your best laid plans, since the first of the year, felt unique and bulletproof to YOU, something you wouldn’t let yourself down on, but you’re 11 days into it and feeling the crust encapsulating you…again.
Recognizing what is happening and how to correct it quickly can you from flip flopping and instead allows you to pivot wisely to keep all your joy and MOMentum.
A wise woman knows how to change course with creativity while holding fast to the purpose and goal whether the crust or fluff appears.
The crust does not intimidate her, but motivates her to look beyond what's easy and take up her next challenge.
There are far too many fair weather people who only go out when the going is good.
Do they also only pray when they feel like it, attend Mass when they’re already dressed well near the church or cook when they find the oven hot and the meal ingredients neatly aligned on the counter?
So why do you treat your flesh and physical education with less subjugation? It’s as if it mattered so little that the regular abuse of it through neglect was permissible…because it's something nearly everyone does?
Gals going through formation in my Intensity Course are experiencing the feelings of thriving and forward focus, their lives and routines are sustainable bringing such incredible peace. But...
They have to practice it.
You have to practice it.
I have to practice it.
You have to show up and steward your body and soul in season and out of season, so stop flip flopping!
The work must go on!
Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:1-5
I help women all over the country regain and maintain life in a healthy and holy manner. When you’re thinking it’s time for you to make changes and want them to finally stick and become your lifestyle then…chat with me for free.
It can happen for you too,
As a health care professional I have long been interested in health and wellness from a nutrition and exercise perspective. There was a disconnect in my own life though, and I was unable to bring together my faith, fitness and food into alignment on my own. Enter Rebecca - with her prayer-provoking insights, very thorough and well thought out program and daily individualized, personal contact. With her guidance, I was able to re-align my mindset and priorities. I have lost weight and gained a perspective that is more Christ centered. She pours her heart and soul out for the ladies she takes under her wing and it works! It has been a very worthwhile investment so that I can be healthy, strong and fit to keep up with and serve my family the way God has called me to serve. Take up this challenge. You won't be disappointed!" E.K
It’s that time of year when your Resolution Soup is on the burner again...
Can you smell it? Is it burning? Is the burner even on? How's it doing?
In reality, you and I both know the feeling of the New Year about to turn over. It means, among other things, that we will strive to set ideals out front, begin to raise our bar and bank on cute but unrealistic expectations for a few days, anyway.
Show me someone who sets out to fulfill what they think they ought to do after the feasting of Christmas and the end of another year of rigamarole and is still holding the line of renewed health, happiness and holiness into Spring? Summer? As a lifestyle? Wowza. Show me.
Most people, seriously the overwhelming majority, drop a resolution just as fast as they picked it up!!
However, usually they just lacked essential ingredients to make a soup that satiates from the beginning.
They left out ‘daily accountability’, went shy on what how much ‘realistic’ was called for and completely used the wrong combinations of ‘spices to keep it exciting and alluring.’
The Soup just wasn’t a hit after that first round of leftovers and they pitched it.
How can you change this headed into 2019?
Can you change this?
Need you change this?
YES, YES and YES!
None of us are living fully God’s ideals for our lives. We are plagued with our own frail humanity and loving the low road which we gravitate toward. Whether we want to align with only the Church’s times for renewal: Lent and Advent (two more times also if you’re Eastern Catholic) or align with the world’s timing: New Years, we frankly can use all the impetus we can get to make progress on our person.
This season of your life can be different. You know that the stewardship He is asking of you is DIFFERENT than what you’ve had going on...
When you don’t say no to certain foods: they’re a god.
When you don’t stay away from certain entertainment: it’s a god.
When you always excuse yourself from what really needs done with you: you’re a god.
And when you hide behind a false sense of your own progress: you’re limiting the real God.
It’s time to root it out, call it out and dig it up!
Coming right up, we have as the pivotal first day of this New Year the special intercession of the Mother of God on her Solemnity under that title, she to whom our whole lives should be consecrated. She cracks open the newness, the promise and the hope for all Christians beginning again Jan. 1st.
Are you wanting to join her in saying YES to God?
It’s not optional to make these needed changes.
It’s requisite for your sanctification!
Start the wheels prayerfully discerning right now about what MUST happen in your life to get to that next chapter and reach out to me if I can help you to powerfully make those changes in a lasting and transformative way.
You’re worth it! Chat with me for free here.
In health and happiness,
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